Pastor Daniel Cassels, his wife Hannah, children Jack, Allie and dog Sammi are new to the Santa Maria area. Daniel grew up in Washington State and Hannah in Globe, Arizona. Though this seems like worlds apart they met while Daniel was serving at Shadow Hills Baptist Church in Las Vegas Nevada. They were married January 06, 2006 and have served God as a family ever since. While attending the The College at Southwestern (a part of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary) in Fort Worth, Texas they felt a call to go into full time ministry on the west coast. This call brought them to the wonderful church of Life Way Fellowship in Santa Maria California in 2009. They love to serve God by serving people, fellowshiping, and sharing the Good News of Christ.
AFFAIR-PROOFING YOUR MARRIAGE
Exodus 20:14 "You shall not commit adultery."
"Husbands and wives must be faithful to each other. God will judge those who are immoral and commit adultery." Heb. 13:4
I. THE PROBLEM: WHAT CAUSES AFFAIRS?
"Adultery is a trap..." Pr. 22:14 (GN)
Unmet needs Unfulfilled expectations
Unresolved conflict Undeveloped self-worth
II. THE PREVENTION: SIX STEPS
1. MAKE A COMMITMENT TO ________________________
"How can a (person) keep his way pure? By living according to your Word." Ps. 119:9
"Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone."
Pr. 5:15 (GN)
2. MAGNIFY ______________________________
"The one who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul." Pr. 6:32 (GN)
"...adultery will cost a man all he has." Pr. 6:26 (GN)
"God will judge those who are immoral and those who commit adultery." Heb. 13:4b
3. MAINTAIN MY ______________________________
"A man should fulfill his duty as a husband and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's needs."
I Cor. 7:3 (GN)
"Do not cheat each other of normal sexual intercourse ... or you will expose yourselves to the obvious temptation of Satan." I Cor. 7:5 (Ph)
4. MANAGE MY ______________________________
How Affairs Develop
1st Accepting sinful thoughts in my mind
2nd Emotional, non-physical involvement
3rd Physical involvement
4th Rationalizing the affair
"Temptation is the pull of a person's own evil thoughts and wishes. These evil thoughts lead to evil actions and afterwards to death." James 1:14-15 (LB)
"Turn your back on lustful desires and give your positive attention to goodness, integrity, love, and peace..." 2 Tim. 2:22 (Ph)
"I want you to be wise about what is good and innocent about evil." Rom 16:19
5. MAINTAIN PROPER ______________________________
"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality." Eph. 5:3
6. MINIMIZE THE ______________________________
"So be careful! If you are thinking, `Oh, I would never behave like that - let this be a warning to you. For you too may fall into sin."
I Cor. 10:12 (LB)
"Bad company corrupts good character." I Cor. 15:33
"Guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with your wife."
THE PATHWAY BACK TO PURITY
1. Acknowledge ____________________ (Ps. 51:1-4)
2. End the relationship ____________________
3. ____________________ ALL contact with the person from now on. Do whatever it takes to do this!